I have collected these comments from surveys done with students and those I have worked with over the years. I asked them the questions: 1 - The skills I have and 2 - How they perceive me.
I met Lloyd in early August 2018. I was recently separated, and we formed a relationship over the course of a couple of days, as I constructed a new fence for him. As I shared my situation with him, I was impressed at the lack of well-meaning advice, constructive criticism, or empty platitudes. But found a person who listened and had empathy for the total train wreck of my life. Someone who always had an ear to listen. The first piece of gold that he provided for me was “that I was in a process and everyone’s process is different.'' There was no magic pill or plan that worked for all, unlike anything else, I had ever heard. He let me find my personal way through all my self-doubt, mistakes, and revaluations of the motivating negativity which directed every decision and response I had made.
The things that ultimately led me to the point of total wretchedness (that was in my head). Not knowing what was right or wrong and not being able to decide because of the conflicting arguments. He supported me through my acknowledgment of all I’d done wrong, provided insight as I strived for the reason for my actions. And encouraged me when I started to accept myself for who I was. All without that "well-meaning advice, constructive criticism or empty platitudes". Helping me get to a point of not only liking but loving the person in the mirror.
Throughout my entire process of healing, Lloyd seemed to have an in-depth understanding of not only male but also female perceptions and expectations of relationships. I am so thankful for the input Lloyd has had in my learning about myself as I not only gained an understanding of perceived good or bad but in me coming into a mind of total positivity. Realizing that in all situations, there is good for me. Thank you, Lloyd and I hope you continue to make a positive input into many other journeys of healing.
Artist (simonkramerfineart.com) - Lloyd Portman is a relentless encourager who has developed a unique ability to write poetry that can connect with people profoundly. He has always been a person who wants to see what is going on behind the obvious. Lloyd is focused on helping people up. He has been involved in many businesses over the years, ranging from forestry through farming, building, and retail. And now works on the internet developing products that improve people's relationships and bring richness to their lives.
Geoff L - Your number 1 skill is being a people person - your ability to meet, engage, relate, empathize and communicate with people. Perception is the thing you can do easily when others find it hard.
Donna L- You are always optimistic, and incredibly positive.
Simon M - The ability to interact with strangers in a way that creates a connection in the moment, with the potential for a relationship of a lifetime: in a way that leaves the individual with a greater sense of being.
Melissa (Life Coach) - As a coach, Lloyd is a keen listener and his counsel is always right on point. I am moved by his passion for writing and reaching people’s hearts through his writing. He is also very adept in communication and can help anyone transcend their relationship, so they can have more meaningful relations with the ones that they love. I highly recommend Lloyd’s writings and his coaching for anyone who is looking for that heart to heart connection from a coach who is genuine, approachable and highly competent. email@example.com
Mary M (My Proofreader)
Lloyd has an innate and acute awareness of human nature:- He picks up on emotional stress and is able to understand and articulate the worries/concerns of others who don't have the skills to express themselves properly. He is able, through his poems, to zero in on a state of mind or a train of thought and clears away the cobwebs so the reader can see the straight path ahead. He is a very good listener - a rare talent.
Dave - Has the wisdom & insight to see, & help others see what they can't see.
Phil S - You are an encourager, and genuinely interested in other people's wellbeing and success. Many people approach relationships to their own ends- essentially self-serving. You have a different way - because you care and you show it through words and actions.
Peter - Wisdom to analyze a situation, Clear communication, Compassion for others